Roses Are Red...

It's that time of year again where some men frantically rush to their local Interflora, Thornton's and Clintons Cards store to show their other half (or potential other half) that they  "really care".


Today, a male Twitter buddy of mine wrote: "Just coined a pretty insightful piece of philosphy. Was moaning about the cost of flowers (£45 for 12 roses!)... I'd rather pay the money than pay the price".

I can't help but think that Valentine's Day is more a day for singletons, new couples or more conveniently for people in the doghouse with their partners. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against it but, apart from Christmas, never have I seen such unnecessarily ridiculous amounts of money spent on very impractical gifts: humongous teddy bears for grown ass people (??!!), intoxicating amounts of eau de toilette, days worth of fattening chocolates (not so mmmm), and flowers that will start to wither in three days max.

The history of Valentine's Day varies depending on the source. Some experts say that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer's daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it "From Your Valentine". And so, February 14 became the day for exchanging love messages and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers who marked the day by exchanging poems and simple gifts of affection such as flowers.

But the purpose of Valentine's Day- demonstrating true affection through actions and consideration- has somewhat been engulfed by the giving of expensive material possessions. The day has become so commercialised that even some restaurants change their menu prices for the evening. A three course meal out for two that is normally around  £60 will cost you near the region of about  £80 to  £120 on the day. Why not just take a trip to your local supermarket to do some grocery shopping, stay indoors and together prepare a lovely candle lit dinner? You'll find that you probably not only enjoy the meal a lot more but enjoy the time you spent together making it- and it's also much better value for your money.

For some however, V- Day ends up being more like D-Day with many people actually deciding to break up with their partner on this particular day … leaving cupid unhappily taking back his arrows. Aaaawww.

My fiancé and I don't really feel like we need a special day in the year to express our love for one another- we do so all the other 365 days of the year and I'm sure many other couples feel the same way. Having said that, I suppose it's always nice with the chaos of life to have a day that you really take time aside to think just how lucky you are to be loved and how equally important it is to demonstrate love.

However you're spending this Sunday evening, whether it be alone with a microwave ready meal, out with your single mates that were unfortunate enough not to get a valentine or canoodling with your partner, have a lovely Valentine's Day. Or as the case may be for some, just have a nice day!



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1 comment:

  1. Thanks for addressing this issue Rebecca,

    Unfortunately, commercialisation of traditions has become a norm, in fact, there are people who probably live of it! I've never cared much about Valentine's, but what really makes me upset is how this trend has affected the way I treat other Christian traditions Christmas and Easter. These holidays have totally become just "days off" for me, simply because being a "part of the hype" has beaten the initial purpose, in a way the sentiment related to Christmas. Despite being an atheist, or rather agnostic, I feel like I've been stripped off my privilege to be privately sentimental :)

    Anyway, that's getting a bit o.t...

    Have a good weekend ;)

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